It's different now this year that I'm considered a single mom. Even though I rarely got a Mother's Day gift from the girls' dad he would at least acknowledge that I was a good mom, but after a while his words lost meaning to me.
Today my neighbors who see me daily stopped over to give me a Mother's Day gift. These are people that we say a quick "good morning" to and sometimes a "good afternoon". We see them down in our laundry facility or at our mailbox. The girls have gone over to their apartment to pet their dogs a few times with me. They brought me a card, some little molds for making chocolate and a balloon and they thanked me for being a good mother to the girls. It's amazing when people with very little interaction with you can tell things like that.
Nice Guy noticed it too and told me he really likes dating someone who is such a wonderful mother. That means the world to me now. I'm trying to maintain some balance in the girls' lives as we've gone through this divorce together. I always tell my friends my main goal in life is to "not fuck up the girls".
Even the ex's girlfriend has told me what a great job I'm doing with the girls.
I'm trying. If you follow me on Facebook you'll see that we've been very into doing lots of "fun" experiences this year. We're limiting money we spend on "stuff" in order to have experiences together. We're all loving this new life we've started this year.
So when someone calls me a Good Mom I feel really good about all the decisions I've made. I love these girls more than anything.