It's hard to be friends with someone who is jealous of you. It's hard to be friends with someone who lives a completly different life than you do.
I'm married.
She's single.
We bought a house.
She lives with her parents still.
I had the girls after Josh and I were married 2 years.
She had her daughter at 19 with a boyfriend.
I've been promoted numerous times since I started my job.
She's been making the same pay since 2009.
The list can go on. She claims the final straw for her was that I look down on people who eat "poorly", like fast food, Crystal Light and junk. I don't. I offered advice when she asked if it was okay for her daughter to drink a certain thing, I said I wouldn't give it to her and that the girls wouldn't be allowed to drink it. I never accused her of being a bad mother for giving it to her child
My final straw is personal. I don't want to say what it was on a public forum but people I have talked to it about it agree that it was time to let go.
There are times where I miss her but in all honesty the constant drama and me not being able to relate to her life were causing us to drift apart.
I can say that I am not anyone's best friend and I do not have a best friend. I don't have a person to call if I need to talk. I don't have a girlfriend to go out with for drinks or dinner. I actually haven't been out to dinner with a friend in over a year. While that does make me sad I have to image that there are other people in the same situation as me.
Right? Do you have a best friend? Do you keep in close contact with anyone from high school still?
I'm in a similar predicament. All of the people I used to consider my friends have all drifted to the aquaintance category. I have no one I call to vent to. I have no one to shop or gossip with. Sometimes this makes me sad - sometimes I am actually grateful for the lack of drama because I have enough on my plate to handle right now. When I stop to think about it I realize that I don't actually like to shop... or gossip... still, it would be nice to have a bigger support system.
ReplyDeleteAh, that's something I"m missing right now also. I've always been the type to have one true "best friend", but since I've been married/had kids I'm missing that. It's hard when your life goes one way and your friend's goes another. It's a new season. I'm sorry, I know how you're feeling, it takes years to build those close friendships.
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