Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Intimidating Person Here

Did you all know that people find me intimidating?

Josh went fishing with a guy that lives down the street from us and apparently it's the talk of the neighborhood.

First off I hate everyone.

Secondly I hate this guy's wife.

Thirdly a lot of people think I'm an intimidating person.

Luckily I have Josh to set people straight.

First of all I do not hate everyone!!  This is some weird thing that people at work think too.  I do not hate you if I do not speak to you every single time I see you.  I'm one of those people that typically doesn't start a conversation with anyone first.  I don't really approach people unless they engage me in conversation first.  I'm sort of shy like that.  I don't mean to be rude or come off as hating people I just typically have a hard time starting up a conversation with people so I just don't!  It's my personality and it's nothing personal toward anyone!

Secondly I have seen this guy's wife 3 times in the last 2 years.  Seriously 3 times!  To me she's insecure if she thinks I hate her.  I've actually spoken to her once and thought she was nice and her little boy is just a little older than Annika and they seemed to like each other.  I even talked to her about him!

Thirdly I am 5'2 and 120 pounds.  Am I really an intimidating person?  This is not the first, or second, or even third time someone has told Josh I'm intimidating.

Reasons people give for me being intimidating:

~I seem to have everything "together", I dress in clean clothes, my hair looks perfect (people must be blind, I've been sporting a messy bun/headband combo for 3 weeks now to hide my gray hair), the girls look put together, the girls behave, blah, blah.

~I run 4 times a week and have the 2 girls by myself every single evening.

~I also cook them dinners and myself dinners and pack Annika a lunch for during the day and we've cut out processed junk so I'm always making something, baking something or cutting up fruits or veggies.

~I lost all my baby weight twice.

~I work full time with two kids.

I'm sure there are more things but those are the thinks that Josh gets told a lot.

Josh says he thinks people think I'm intimidating because I have a "bitch look" on my face sometimes!  I swear I am not a mad/unhappy/horrible person!  I do smile but I guess my relaxed/normal looking face looks bitchy!

One thing that my friend at work and I have noticed is that I am NEVER approached by a homeless person asking for money .  Proof that even at 5'2 I scare the shit out of people or at least seem unapproachable :-)  I'll take that one with all the homeless people that harrass my co-workers when they walk down the street at work.

Luckily I don't care if people don't like me and honestly if people think I hate them that's there own deal really, right?  At least I know I don't hate them!  I am going to work on the approaching people and being more friendly-ish towards people in our new neighborhood and I hope I don't intimidate people there because I'd actually like to make some new friends close to were we live!

3 comments:

  1. I'm sorry people think that about you, even if it doesn't bother you much. I wouldn't want people to think that about me, either. My mom was/is really super shy and everyone in high school thought she was stuck up. But she wasn't, she's just shy. I'm shy too, but I guess I'm more of a 'fearful' looking shy. He he.

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  2. I think my relaxed face can look bitchy too. Not fair right! I am also a bit shy with new people and worry sometimes that it comes off as stuck up. I still remember my advisor in nursing school telling me that I came off as a bit "aloof" at times. WHAT?! I'll never forget that one. In the meantime, keep being you! I love your blog and am happy you are so faithful with it.

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  3. Doesn't EVERYONE'S face look a little bitchy unless we are slapping a smile on it all the time? Maybe it's just mine....but, that sucks that people think those things about you without knowing you. I am the type of person that doesn't necessarily get intimidated by people that "have it all together" but maybe I am just a little jealous? Cause, I am so NOT that person. But, I want to be friends with people like that because then maybe I'll get some tips. ha! Your kids are adorable! -Meredith

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